2017 was… interesting (to put it nicely), and I can’t deny that I’m looking forward to a fresh start, with 12 whole months of possibilities ahead. That being said, January is always a bit of a tough month for me. For some people, there’s the excitement of a fresh start, the glow of the coming year’s opportunities, and I want to embrace all of those things too, but more often than not, it’s just stressful. The beginning of January often comes with a mix of make-it-the-best-year-ever pressure and it’s-ages-before-my-favorite-season (autumn) rolls around again.
Like many people, January often finds me either fretting about what I didn’t do in the previous year or worrying about all that’s yet to come. Plus, the holidays are over, the days are short, dark, and often gloomy, and it’s cold. It’s not the greatest month for a lot of us, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do our best to stay as positively present as possible!
Here are some of the tactics I’ll be using this month to try tackling those January blues. All of these I’ve tried before and they’ve really helped me ward off the doom-and-gloom of the new year. Hopefully they’ll help you too!
ACCEPT THE DOWN-AND-OUT VIBES
When it comes to dealing with a difficult situation — no matter what it is! — the first step is acceptance. If you try to pretend you’re not struggling or you try to push away the sad or stressed emotions, they’ll come back even worse (and often in unpredictable and bizarre ways!). If you’re not feeling the “new year, new me!” vibes, don’t worry — you’re not alone. It’s a challenging time for a lot of people, and the first step to making it easier is recognizing that it’s okay not to feel super excited and optimistic about the year ahead. Twelve months is a long time, and you don’t have to be jumping for joy on day one. Allow yourself to feel how you feel, and try your best not to judge yourself or tell yourself that you “should” feel a certain way. You feel how you feel, and that’s perfectly okay.
DO SOMETHING YOU PUT OFF LAST YEAR
Part of the not-so-great feelings that can come along on January 1 involve believing that you didn’t accomplish everything you wanted to last year. You’ve probably heard about the high failure rates for new year’s resolutions so if you didn’t get all of your bad habits under control last year, you’re not alone. You can’t change everything that happened last year, but you can take a positive action right now. Think of one thing you could do right this month (today even!) that you wanted to do last year. It doesn’t have to be something big — could be cleaning out a closet, donating some old clothes, writing an email to an old friend, visiting a museum you’ve been wanting to check out — but pick something and do it. It’ll make you feel good, and it’ll set a positive, proactive tone for the year ahead.
START A NEW (POSITIVE!) DAILY HABIT
I know, I know — this is the most cliched new year advice in the world, but for the past few years I’ve started doing Yoga with Adriene’s 30 Day Yoga Journey and it’s been amazing for me. Working out is hard (especially if you’re not a fan, like me) and this is an easy way for me to get into a routine without too much effort since I can do it at home anytime I want. Plus, because she’s been doing these for a few years, I start a old video series in February and it keeps me on track for a few months. It apparently takes about two weeks to start a habit so why not incorporate something into your daily routine now? It doesn’t have to be a major shift (sometimes that whole “resolution” concept feels daunting!), but doing something (however small!) new on a daily basis will give you a nice little focus for upcoming gloomy month.
KEEP YOUR HOME FESTIVELY HYGGE
Last year after Christmas, I decided I was going to leave up the lights all year ’round. I’d decorated my bookshelves and windows with them and I knew that taking them down was one of the hardest bits of post-Christmas de-decorating because it meant a lot of the light would be taken out of the room. Keeping up lights always seemed too college-dorm-room to me, but once I decided to embrace them, it was kinda awesome. I generally don’t use them much in the warmer months, but they keep my place feeling cozy and hygge-like all winter long. Lights might not be your thing, but try to do something at home that’ll keep you feeling cozy and uplifted throughout the darkest months of the year. Even a little thing can have a big impact on your mood!
MAKE A STAY-THE-SAME RESOLUTION
Years ago, I wrote New Year, Same Me: 6 Stay-the-Same Resolutions, and I think about it every year when all of the articles and blog posts on making and keeping new year’s resolutions start popping up everywhere. There’s always so much focus on what we want to change and what we hope for in the year ahead (or reflections on what happened the year before), and most people don’t pause to think about what they want to stay the same in the upcoming months. Resolutions might work for some people, but I personally find them frustratingly ineffective. Since I wrote that post back in 2010, I’ve found it a lot more useful to think about what worked well in the previous year and direct my focus to creating more of that in my life. Instead of focusing on what you don’t want to be (or don’t feel you are), try zeroing in on what’s working about you and your life, and it’s sure to make January a bit more joyful (and perhaps a little less judgmental, too!).
If you’re struggling right now, don’t forget: you’re not alone. A lot of us have a hard time during this time of year, and the best thing you can do is do what you can to make the most of it. Hopefully these tips will provide some inspiration for the weeks to come, but if you’re really feeling down and can’t seem to shake the January blues, I highly recommend seeking advice from a professional. Therapy (and light therapy!) can work wonders for the toughest time of the year.